Not everyone can be the greatest lover ever, but being better isn’t rocket science either. Here's some simple rules to sweet sexcess.
Relax and be in the moment
Whether you’re in the sack or hoping to get there, it’s not a race, it’s not a competition, it’s not an exam.
They might not know exactly what they like at first, and that’s ok.
They might even only be able to tell you what doesn’t feel good.
But don’t feel stupid if someone tells you something doesn’t feel amazing.
It’s great that they trust you enough to say, and it’s really great intel on your path to work out what will work between the two of you – and maybe even becoming their dream lover!
Don’t try to be a porn star
The only way to figure out what your partner likes is by communicating and asking them.
Porn is not any kind of "Good Sex Guide".
It portrays a lot of harmful stereotypes, attitudes and behaviours.
Remember: Violence isn't sexy, guys don't need to control and dominate, and girls aren't sex objects simply there to satisfy guys.
And porn won’t help you figure out what your partner’s feeling or up for, the only way to figure that out is to communicate!
Be in the moment and keep checking in
Sex is a balancing act.
You need to feel the feels in your own head while also staying in tune with your partner.
Enjoy yourself, but make sure those good sensations are mutual.
Checking in is important to do before you start, but also equally important to keep doing on the reg.
It doesn’t matter if it's someone you’ve just met, you're friends with benefits, in a situationship, or you've been doing this stuff with each other forever.
Always, always, always check in.
Play it safe
Take the awkwardness and worry out of the safe sex question by just busting out the the frangas, the dingers... the condoms!
Better to be safe than sorry.
Be respectful
It’s not that hard to be considerate, generous, and communicative. Making sure that you are all of those things means that everyone involved will have a much better time all around.
