It can be tough to read the signs somebody is trying to show you, people are always asking us how they can do it better.
We ask our TikTok and Instagram followers what they want advice on, and this is a question one of them sent in.
They asked: My girlfriend (we've been dating for like 2 months) said she doesn't like to be clingy at school and I said that was fine, but she won't even hold my hand. We are best friends, but lately I feel like she's been acting weird. Do you think this is a sign?
We thought we'd ask our online pals to answer the question.
Here's what they said:
Your Questions
- Tom Some people aren't into PDA [‘public displays of affection’]. Some people are REALLY into it. The only way to know what she feels is by asking…
- Leo Ask her to think about what being ‘clingy’ really means, it doesn't sound like you're smothering her with affection. However, if she's acting weird this may be a sign of something running slightly deeper, she may not be completely honest about her feelings towards you. Your best bet is to quietly take her aside some time and ask her a few choice questions about her actions.
- Grace Just talk to her more, and ask her why she doesn't want to hold hands and what not. You should always know what’s going on, especially so you don't start overthinking and creating the wrong idea in your head!
- Niamh I would suggest you talk to her about how she feels, and make it clear how you feel.
One pretty consistent suggestion that came through in the responses was to communicate and chat about it with them.
We couldn’t agree more.
If there’s uncertainty in a relationship, and it’s making you feel bad or uncomfortable the first step has got to be checking in with the other person.
Keep in mind that it’s about making your feelings known, not making accusations or assumptions about where the other person’s at.
One point that nobody really mentioned was why is it so important for our questioner to be holding hands at school.
School is kind of like your unpaid workplace, and a lot of people maybe don’t want to put their relationship on show at work.
